Writings & Musings
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Insight and inspiration on living unhurried lives, overcoming feminine burnout, reclaiming our radiance and self-sovereignty and embracing our brilliance.
Why Women Deserve Somatic Approaches That Honour Their Body, Cycles and Lived Experience
I’m often asked why my work centres women.
There are many reasons for this, but at its core, I deeply care about and believe in women.
I believe that when women heal, grow, take a stance for what they believe in, the world heals in some ways too, and it becomes a little more harmonious.
Many coaching approaches are based on the assumption of a one size fits all model. But women aren’t just smaller, more delicate versions of men’s.
We are also profoundly shaped by centuries of cultural conditioning, by the expectations we’ve internalised, and by the way the world meets us…
The Tender Grief Beneath Women’s Anger
Last week, I was in a facilitated space with other women, exploring the theme of anger.
It’s a subject that can feel highly charged and deeply uncomfortable, particularly for women.
The conversation was deep, and the shares were nuanced and reflective.
What really transpired was the grief, the sadness, the lack of being seen that often sits tenderly beneath the emotion of anger.
For women especially, anger often surfaces from the grief of not being seen, not having a voice, living in systems that we don't feel we fully belong to.
Beyond Learned Helplessness: A Somatic Path For Women to Reclaim Their Energy, Voice, and Agency
When I look back on my experience of burnout, one of the most profound parts of that experience was the sense that no matter what or how much I did, nothing seemed to make any difference.
My efforts felt futile.
I was expanding every ounce of energy I had, and yet it felt like pushing against an immovable wall.
Most of the time, I felt like I was drowning.
For a long time, I gave increasingly more, believing that eventually, things would shift.
But over time, the ‘fight’ energy that initially mobilised me into action started to dwindle, and slowly I fell into what psychologists call ‘learned helplessness’. A subtle erosion of hope, an insidious and devastating settling in my heart that said: “What’s the point anyway?”.
How to Embody the Life and Future We Desire to Create
We are always embodying something.
It might be the forward urgency of our hectic schedule, the relaxed openness in our heart in moments of joy, or the way our body’s shoulders tighten when we feel stressed.
So much of what we embody isn’t chosen consciously.
It’s shaped by our history, our family, and the culture we live in.
Often, the patterns we have practised are what allowed us to get through, to cope, to keep going in challenging moments. They are deeply intelligent responses that have helped us to navigate life. Responses that we have unconsciously honed and perfected through repetition.
The Somatic Path to Women's Empowerment: How to Cultivate the Inner Conditions for Growth
As women, we are told to own our worth, to take up space and believe in ourselves, as if empowerment was just a mindset shift away.
A simple choice we haven’t made yet.
For many of us, rather than feeling liberating, this can actually feel like more pressure and keep us stuck.
Even if we long to feel daring and empowered, something within us still hesitates, contracts, or resists in moments where we are invited to step up or forward.
However bright, intelligent and capable we are, deep within our system, something might not yet feel safe enough for us to expand into a fuller expression of who we are.
This is where traditional empowerment models can fall short…
The Power of Living in Alignment
Most of the women I support are far more intelligent, creative, resourceful and brave than they often know. They might have built businesses, raised families, held space for others, and navigated challenges with incredible resilience.
Many find me at a point in their life where they feel a sense of weariness that goes beyond physical tiredness. An 'experiential' weariness.
They are exhausted from trying to fit into external frameworks that often don’t reflect what matters most to them.
They are tired of overriding the ever growing discomfort of living a life that might look good on paper, but might not feel vibrant or fulfilling on the inside.
They are experiencing misalignment - a growing dissonance between their inner and outer worlds.
And something within them is pulling them towards more alignment (although they wouldn’t articulate it in this way)…
Leading in Times of Chaos: The Leadership We Need Now
Over the past couple of weeks I have been fortunate enough to attend a weekly group circle dedicated to exploring how to navigate times of chaos and polycrisis - it has been illuminating, tender and perspective shifting.
Simply being with others asking themselves similar questions, sharing our respective experiences and coming together to forge a path forward that feels true to each of us and the whole has been a gift.
It has crystalised even more deeply for me the need for us to come together, to co-create a path forward, to focus on our communities and the places where we can make a difference.
The Invisible Giver: Why Emotional Exhaustion Comes from More Than Just Doing Too Much
We naturally assume that exhaustion comes from doing too much. From overcommitting, overextending, and carrying too much on our plates.
And of course, this absolutely contributes to a sense of feeling physically exhausted and depleted.
But often, there is a deeper layer to our exhaustion, which we may not perceive.
It comes from giving without being met.
Pouring out without being poured into. Offering support without being acknowledged.
It’s the emotional exhaustion of being so reliable and endlessly available that our giving becomes invisible.
This kind of exhaustion is rooted in a lack of reciprocity, and beyond leaving us tired, it leaves us feeling hollow…
From Fixing to Witnessing: A Somatic Approach to Embracing Our Whole Self With Compassion
When was the last time you experienced stress, anxiety, sadness or another tender or uncomfortable emotion?
Did you notice an instinctual urge to make it go away or fix it?
For many of us, fixing, numbing or suppressing our emotions has become a well practised way of coping in difficult moments.
We might pick up our phone and scroll through our social media feed, get busy with our to-do list, or eat food that feels particularly comforting - without truly noticing.
These strategies often serve us well for a while.
They may have enabled us to cope with emotions that felt too overwhelming to open ourselves up to, without the fear of drowning in them.
But they are not sustainable.
They often leave the underlying emotions unresolved.
Breaking Free from Overgiving: Including Ourselves in Our Circle of Care
Do you tend to be the last person on your list of priorities?
Do you consistently put others’ needs above your own, sometimes at the expense of your own wellbeing?
This way of being is so ingrained in many of us that we have stopped noticing it, let alone, questioning it.
Overgiving is something I am very familiar with - so are many of the women I support. How often do we tell ourselves, “I will get to me when everything else is done” or “It’s easier if I just handle this myself” or “I’ll make time to look after myself later.”
But later never comes, and each one of these small moments where we give beyond our capacity is an act of self-abandonment. It erodes us by chipping away at our energy, our joy, and ultimately our sense of self.
For so many women, this self-sacrificing narrative feels normal. As women, our culture praises us for how much we give, how much we do, and how little we ask for in return.
We need reminding of this fundamental truth: others matter, but we do too.
How Our Nervous System Impacts Our Leadership Capacity As Women: A Somatic Approach to Leading with Confidence
Have you ever felt pulled to step into something bigger : a greater vision, a leadership role, or a new chapter of your life, but found yourself stuck between the desire to lean in, and an inner resistance that left you feeling stuck, hesitant or overwhelmed.
As women, the tension between ambition and the internal barriers that hold us back is so common, and can feel like an internal tug-of-war.
The idea of the ‘something bigger’ might feel exciting, but when opportunities to take that step present themselves, fear, self-doubt or self-sabotage seem to get in the way, leaving us frozen and unable to move forward.
The truth is, leadership isn’t just about ambition or skills; it’s about capacity - our ability to hold the emotional, physical, and mental ‘charge’ of being the leader we envision ourselves to be.
And that capacity begins with your nervous system.
From People-Pleasing to Sovereignty: A Guide to Setting Compassionate Boundaries
Have you ever felt the pull to say “no” but heard yourself say “yes” instead?
Are you familiar with that subtle moment of override - the moment where we ignore our inner voice and abandon ourselves to keep the peace or make others feel comfortable.
As a recovering people pleaser, I spent years overruling my needs, desires, energy and capacity - in service of ensuring that the needs, desires and capacity of those around me were honoured and met.
The Fear of Being Seen: How to Embrace Our Brilliance, and Take Up Space In A Way That Feels Safe
Within my personal experience, and through the coaching explorations I have had with many women, one of the most insidious and common fears I see is this: the fear of being seen and of taking up the space we yearn for.
It’s a subtle, persistent voice inside of us that says, “It’s safer to remain unnoticed, to not take up too much space.” urging us to shrink and to stay small, to protect ourselves from judgment or criticism.
For many of us, it quietly lingers in the background of our lives (sometimes unnoticed), yet it powerfully shapes the way we show up in every area of our life.
Perhaps it’s something you too, are familiar with? If so, you are most certainly not alone.
Leadership, Redefined: Why Feminine Leadership Is Powered By Rest
We live in a world that measures success by productivity, achievement, and the ability to keep pushing forward at all cost.
The more we do, produce, deliver - the greater our success, even if it means deprioritising our wellbeing, and abandoning our needs and sense of purpose as we climb ladders.
For women, this model of being and leading seems to ask that we sacrifice ourselves, conceal parts of who we are to fit into a mould that was never shaped for us, and that we chronically overachieve, overextend and overgive - often leading us to constantly hover over exhaustion or to oscillate between chronic stress (being ‘all on’) and burnout (being ‘all off’).
But what if we’re missing something crucial in the conversation about leadership?
What if true feminine power doesn’t come from pushing harder, but from resting deeper?
Overcoming Feminine Burnout: How to end the perpetual quest towards being enough
Over 10 years ago, I experienced a severe burnout. It left me feeling utterly broken, raw, cracked open - hanging on by a very fine thread. My sense of identity was shattered, I felt completely empty, and simply moving through each day was incredibly challenging.
I felt lost: I had no idea how to move forward, and my inner critical voice was relentless.
The Courage To Slow Down And Reclaim Sovereignty Over Our Life
The pace at which we live our lives seems to be constantly accelerating, and it’s easy to get swept up in the forward moving current that we are all swimming in.
It’s as though we are pulled by an irresistible urge to be doing more, moving ever faster, pushing ourselves further.
This forward motion is often driven by a desire to feel fulfilled, happy, and at peace.
Embodied Feminine Leadership: your way of being is a way of leading
As women, we are often conflicted about leadership.
We might want to step up to lead and take a stance for what we believe in, but the current style of leadership that is role modelled to us isn’t always one we are willing to embrace. It often demands that we abandon parts of who we are, in order to fit in and belong. This way of leading omits a huge portion of who we are as women, and undervalues the unique qualities that we are naturally gifted with and embody.
