The Power of Alignment: Living and Leading with Coherence
Most of the women I support are more intelligent, creative, resourceful and braver than they know. They have built businesses, raised families, held space for others, and navigated challenges with incredible resilience.
Many find me when they arrive at a point in their life where they feel a sense of weariness that goes beyond physical tiredness. It could be described as 'experiential' weariness.
They are exhausted from trying to fit into external frameworks that often don’t reflect what matters most to them, and leave them with a sense that something significant is missing.
They are tired of overriding the ever growing discomfort of living a life that might look good on paper, but does not feel fulfilling on the inside.
They are experiencing misalignment - a growing dissonance between their inner and outer worlds.
And something within them is pulling them towards more coherence (although they may not articulate it in this way).
A feeling I spent years cohabiting with, as I climbed up corporate ladders and felt an increasing sense of emptiness and ‘purpose deficit’.
What we are seeking - often without knowing - is a place where our values, body, nervous system, beliefs, and behaviours are in harmonious relationship with one another instead of each pulling in a different direction.
Inner Alignment as Coherence and Soul Integrity
Inner alignment could be described as coherence or "soul integrity".
It’s the inner feeling of congruence we experience when there is a sense of harmony between our nervous system state, our inner landscape (our thoughts, emotions, patterns, and beliefs), our intention and purpose, and our somatic presence (our way of being and what we embody).
When these elements are in aligned relationship, we experience more flow, clarity, momentum, openness, and a deep sense of being resourced from within.
Perhaps you have experienced this in the past?
A moment where you were doing something you loved, where you were fully present, deeply engaged and felt ‘on purpose’.
It’s a grounded, living connection between our inner state, how we feel, what we desire, and how we choose to act and live.
From this place, our work or life feels more like an extension of our deeper values.
And as importantly, our vitality stops leaking because our energy, time, attention, and voice are used in ways that reflect what we care about. And our decisions come from clarity about the values that guide our life.
Alignment doesn't mean being perfect but being consistent in our orientation towards what matters, and committing to it, even when it's challenging or inconvenient. Choosing to take a pause and return to more coherence when we lose our way.
How to Return to Inner Alignment and Reconnect With Our Inner Compass?
Returning to alignment isn’t a quick fix, it’s a lifelong practice that involves:
Reconnecting with our body and its innate intelligence - our gateway to our deepest longings, desires and dreams
Learning to distinguish between what we think we should do and what WE truly desire
Trusting our body's internal compass and using its cues to take small steps towards greater alignment
Working with our nervous system to cultivate inner stability while we reorient and meet our edges as we step onto a path that is less familiar
Choosing, through the 10,000 micro choices we make each day, to orient towards a truer path that prioritises our soul / inner integrity / alignment over external pressures or expectations.
Alignment is inner honesty - and it leads to shifting from living someone else's dream to living our own, one small step at a time.
Signs We are Moving Back Into Inner Alignment and Coherence
As we move more and more into soul integrity, coherence and inner alignment, we might begin to notice:
A sense of flow, perhaps even spaciousness or lightness
A feeling of being more connected to what we truly want in our life
A stronger connection with our deeper 'why', which resources us and helps us cultivate rooted momentum to move forward
More ease and fluency in our actions and decisions, because we have exquisite clarity on what we are orienting towards, and we are being pulled from the heart by our values and purpose
More creativity - a sense of overflowing with ideas and organically wanting to share them outwardly
Feeling internally resourced, sovereign over our life and choices, and no longer looking outside for permission
Alignment doesn’t mean certainty.
In fact, it often demands the opposite: trust in the uncertainty.
Holding the vision lightly, taking aligned action, and trusting the next step even if we can't see the entire path.
It's an orientation rather than a certainty. A devotion rather than a path of perfection. A rooting in what we care about and desire, rather than what the world tells us we should do.
Why This Matters Now
We are at a moment in time where so many old ways and paradigms are being questioned, including the way we live, lead, relate to one another and the natural world we are part of.
For some of us, there is a realisation that the old blueprints are outdated, and there is a longing for a more regenerative, embodied, and soul-honouring way of experiencing life, and showing up in the world.
I want to acknowledge here, that alignment is a luxury, a huge privilege that is available when we are in a position of choice. When our basic needs are met, when we have sufficient resources both internally and externally. When we have the capacity to reflect on our life and recalibrate its course, if we choose to.
It's my belief that when women orient towards more alignment from a place of deep care, the world becomes a better place ... we impact our communities, families, workplaces, and society differently.
In my view, aligning to our true path, potential and impact is not just a privilege but perhaps also a responsibility - depending on what we are aligning to.
Living From Alignment Within the Life You Already Have
Moving towards a greater sense of alignment doesn’t require that we burn everything down or start over. We don’t need to walk away from our life, responsibilities, or make a dramatic pivot.
More often, it looks like holding the vision for the life we long for with tenderness and trust, while sprinkling more coherence, resonance, and truth within the life we already have.
It’s about:
Tending to the embers of our heart and what we care about
Taking small steps in the direction of what feels true
Sensing the moments when we feel aligned, and letting them nourish us
Noticing the moments when we are not aligned, pausing and recalibrating
Some of us might choose to go into full ‘reinvention’.
But this work doesn’t mean making radical shifts, it’s a deepening into our presence and purpose. Becoming more rooted in what we value, and more curious about what’s possible when we live from that place.
It’s not rushed, it's savoured. It’s not curated for anyone else’s gaze or opinion but our own.
It’s you, coming home to what you care about, and making space for that to shape how you live.
Coherence as Devotion to What Matters
You don’t need to overhaul your entire life to begin to align with what feels like a truer path.
You just need to pause and listen to the wisdom and subtle cues your body holds (it already knows).
And be willing to make one decision that feels true, however small it might seem.
That is how alignment unfolds in our life. No big declarations or radical shifts, but rather small, daily, lived commitments to soul integrity.
If you’re ready to build a life, business, or body of work from this place, I’d love to invite you into deeper conversations and spaces that support this kind of recalibration. Schedule a no-obligation discovery call here for us to explore together what it might look like.
And if you would like to guide others towards greater alignment through somatic approaches, the Wisdom Within™ Somatic Coach Training might be for you. You can find out more here.
