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Insight and inspiration on living unhurried lives, overcoming feminine burnout, reclaiming our radiance and self-sovereignty and embracing our brilliance.
The Tender Grief Beneath Women’s Anger
Last week, I was in a facilitated space with other women, exploring the theme of anger.
It’s a subject that can feel highly charged and deeply uncomfortable, particularly for women.
The conversation was deep, and the shares were nuanced and reflective.
What really transpired was the grief, the sadness, the lack of being seen that often sits tenderly beneath the emotion of anger.
For women especially, anger often surfaces from the grief of not being seen, not having a voice, living in systems that we don't feel we fully belong to.
Understanding the Mind–Body Connection and How to Shift Old Patterns by Working Somatically
So many of the patterns we live with, like the endless late-night thinking loops, the automatic “yes” when we mean “no,” the crushing feeling of self-doubt, are often considered to be mindset problems.
But if you have ever tried to think your way out of them, you will know that reframing our thoughts can offer relief, but doesn’t address what might lie beneath and causes these thoughts to arise.
That’s because these patterns don’t begin in the mind.
They begin in the body.
Before these patterns became habits, they started as survival strategies. Unconscious, protective responses to moments when something in our world felt too overwhelming for our system to cope with: too much, too fast, too soon - or conversely, not enough.
The Missing Piece in Transformation: Why Awareness Alone Doesn’t Always Create Change
Maybe, like me, you have an insatiable curiosity for understanding why you are the way you are. You read all the books and articles you can put your hands on, listen to the podcasts, watch the videos … to more deeply know yourself.
And what an incredible and profound journey this can be! Truly life changing.
We gain so much awareness around our ways of being, behaviours, thoughts, beliefs, and the long-held patterns that we might want to shift.
We journal, reflect, share it with others where it feels right to do so.
We reframe our thoughts, clean up our mindset.
And yet, the patterns remain.
We know. And yet change isn’t happening.
3 Ways Somatic Coaching Is Different From Traditional Coaching Approaches
Somatic approaches are increasingly talked about, yet they can feel obscure or hard to distinguish from more traditional or cognitive ways of coaching.
In this blog post, we look at how somatic coaching might differ from more traditional approaches, and explore 3 ways in which somatic coaching can help facilitate deep transformation.
Finding Anchors in Times of Transition and Uncertainty
We all navigate moments where it feels like our life is becoming ‘undone’.
Whether that’s relationships ending, burnout, grief, uncertainty, collective unease, or natural seasonal changes in a woman’s life such as transitions into motherhood or the menopause.
In those times, it can feel like the stability we have known is pulled from under our feet.
Like a plant that has been uprooted, we become untethered, hanging in the liminal space between what has been and what is yet to come.
Slow Change is Sustainable Change - Why Somatic Approaches Work Differently
The world we live in is obsessed with quick fixes.
Productivity hacks and fast transformations are all the rage, and we are led to believe that real change happens in big moments: dramatic breakthroughs, radical shifts, quantum leaps.
But our body isn’t wired for these overnight changes.
Real, embodied transformation doesn’t happen in big bursts.
It happens in layers, over time, at a pace that our body and nervous system can hold.
This is why somatic approaches work differently. They are the antidote to our fast culture.
They show us that deep and sustainable change doesn’t mean pushing harder and faster, but moving at the pace of safety and integration, to allow the changes to gently ‘take root’ in our body.
From Fixing to Witnessing: A Somatic Approach to Embracing Our Whole Self With Compassion
When was the last time you experienced stress, anxiety, sadness or another tender or uncomfortable emotion?
Did you notice an instinctual urge to make it go away or fix it?
For many of us, fixing, numbing or suppressing our emotions has become a well practised way of coping in difficult moments.
We might pick up our phone and scroll through our social media feed, get busy with our to-do list, or eat food that feels particularly comforting - without truly noticing.
These strategies often serve us well for a while.
They may have enabled us to cope with emotions that felt too overwhelming to open ourselves up to, without the fear of drowning in them.
But they are not sustainable.
They often leave the underlying emotions unresolved.
